Coming from a conservative, religious background, Kimberly first tried to “fix” Kai and would punish her for “acting girly.” But Kimberly’s attitude toward her daughter changed when Kai started “praying to go live with Jesus forever.” This was around the time that Leelah Alcorn, a seventeen-year-old trans girl from Ohio, died by suicide, bringing international attention to obstacles facing trans youth. Alcorn’s death was the deciding factor for Kimberly to change her views. She wanted her daughter to live.

Kimberly began bracing for anti-trans legislation in Texas this year, as legislatures in Alabama, Arkansas, and South Dakota began hearing bills. After 26 years of living near the Gulf Coast in Brazoria County, Kimberly equates this year’s Texas Legislature session with hurricane season. She wondered how big the storm was going to be.

“Can we survive this and just kind of batten down the hatches? Or is this going to be a category five, where everything gets devastated and you lose your home? I feel like I’m in a cat. five,” she says.

Arguably, they’ve been in one for years. In 2017, Kai and her mom were at the center of the so-called bathroom bills, which would have banned transgender people from accessing restrooms and locker rooms that matched their gender identity. When Kai was in kindergarten in Pearland, her school prohibited her from using the girl’s bathroom and offered as an option only the nurse’s bathroom, which was too far away for Kai to access; sometimes she would have accidents in the hallway. Kimberly testified in the Senate, while Kai sat on her lap, and their story was featured in an Emmy-award winning documentary.

“I didn’t start understanding her as a trans person until the State of Texas made me have to fight for her,” Kimberly recalls.

The situation at her school was so unbearable that the family moved to Austin, where more affirming local laws and school policies made Kai feel safer. It wasn’t an easy transition. “We had to start over. We lost all of our friends. We lost our community. We lost our church home. I wish people could understand the whole big picture,” Kimberly says.

With these new anti-trans bills being considered, Kimberly is worried her family’s life will be upended again. Even though Texas is all that Kai knows and the place where Kimberly has spent most of her life, if the bills pass and become law, the Shappleys plan to leave the state. “I spent all the time, the energy, and the money to move to Austin. I could have used that same time and money and resources to move to an affirming state that would protect us. And we wouldn’t have wasted these last few years trying to put down roots and rebuild. I feel like we’re just in limbo.”

When I ask Kai what trans kids in Texas need, she shouts, “Laws that protect us, not go against us!”